Walk Around the Table

Picture a couple in an argument as two people sitting across a table from each other. The problem is in the middle. Each of them is pushing from their side, trying to win, or at least trying not to get hurt.

Now picture one of them getting up, walking around the table and sitting down beside the other. The problem is still on the table. But now they are looking at it together. The fight has changed shape.

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Agreement doesn’t start with one person winning. It starts with both deciding they are on the same side. And Paul gives a time limit: “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.”

Next time you are in a standoff at home, try it, even literally. Get up, sit beside them, and suggest you look at it together. You aren’t giving in. You are choosing the marriage over the argument.