Love Is a Verb You Vowed

Wedding vows don’t promise to feel this way forever. They promise better and worse, sickness and health. They are promises about what we will do, because the people who wrote them knew feelings come and go.

Scripture describes love the same way. “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up… Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.” Every one of those is an action.

John says it directly: “let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” Love shows up in what you do on an ordinary Wednesday, especially when you don’t feel like it.

Here is the surprising part. Feelings often follow actions. Choose to be kind, patient and present, and over time the warmth tends to come back. Keep your vow with your hands, and let your heart catch up.